Do we have a story we tell ourselves? How does our story manifest? Is it possible to go about changing our story?
Our thoughts are the stories we tell ourselves in our heads. Our thoughts play a crucial role in shaping the stories we tell ourselves because we tend to believe those thoughts. Are we hearing the voice as negative or positive? Although, that voice or thought is designed to help keep us safe, it can be harmful if all we believe are the negative stories. For this reason, our thoughts are a power to be reckoned with. Therefore, it’s important to question whether the negative stories coming from our thoughts are really true, beneficial, or serving us for the good.
You might feel like changing your story is impossible. However, if I can change my story, then it is indeed possible. Let’s see if the eight steps found below can be successful in changing our stories.
In this article we will discuss the good and bad effect that our thoughts have on our mental and physical health and eight steps to changing our story or thoughts.
Negative Thoughts
On one hand our thoughts can be nice and sweet. The sweetness might even ooze out of our mouths. Then the next moment, we are throwing shade at others even if it’s just in our minds. Worse yet, we put ourselves down and we can be quite critical to the point of self-loathing.
We tell ourselves that we are no good and that nobody cares. That we are not good at anything, and we have no friends. Our thoughts tell us we are stupid and have no talent. We think we have no power to change anything to make it better. Our thoughts tell us we are not beautiful or even pretty. These are the negative stories we tell ourselves.
What stories do you tell yourself?
Are any of these negative self-loathing thoughts true in the slightest?
All my life, I have had these thoughts and it’s been a hard road to change it. But I’m almost there because I’m finally putting myself out here and talking about it. I’ve decided to show up not only for myself but for you as well.
I’m lucky because some can’t get past it. It stops them from progressing and evolving. It even ends their lives. My brother was one who gave up. I can’t imagine the pain he went through.
Just imagine our thoughts are so powerful that we let it stop us from living, from being happy, from even trying to make our dreams a reality.
Does it have to be this way?
Hell no, it doesn’t.
If our thoughts can be that powerful, then imagine how powerful it would be if we just changed our story.
Why is it so hard for us to be kind and loving to ourselves?
Why are we so critical of ourselves? So hateful? Maybe if we loved US then that would ooze out into the world making it a better place for all.
How can we go about changing our thoughts so that they can be more positive? That is to think kind and loving thoughts in our minds.
Here are a few tips:
Eight Steps to Changing Our Story
- Notice when you are thinking negatively about yourself.
- Then stop!
- Ask yourself if this is really true? Even if someone told you it was true all your life, I want you to question it, to challenge it! Maybe they were wrong? Maybe they didn’t like themselves.
- Replace the negative thought with a positive affirmation. They are powerful. If we can say awful things about us and believe it, then we can surely say positive nice things and believe that. You can find affirmations on the internet, in books, and you can even make them up for yourself.
- Practice Gratitude. Cultivate a daily gratitude practice so that you can shift your focus to the positive aspects of your life. Write down three things you are grateful for each day. I have a beautiful free gratitude journal page as a gift to you in a line at the end of this article. Go check that out!
- Practice Self-Care. Start treating yourself and your well-being with kindness. Spend time out in nature, start a hobby, or simply get more rest. If you know me, I really like my rest.
- Be Patient with Yourself. Changing your thoughts takes time and effort. Be patient and gentle with yourself throughout this process.
- Seek Support. Talk to friends, family, or a mental health professional if negative thinking becomes overwhelming or persistent.
Yes, this is a journey and might take a while but it’s so worth it. But wouldn’t it be nice when it happens. How would you feel throughout the day if you believed that you were good enough? Just the way you are right now.
Changing Your Story: You Are Worth It!
You are worthy.
You are smart.
You matter.
You are loved.
You are not alone.
Say this to yourself every single day! Every morning, every afternoon, and every night. Eventually, you will go a long way in thinking more positive and better about yourself.
You matter for the simple fact that you are here and alive. That is all. You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to prove it.
Now breathe please.
Everything will be alright. Just wait a little while and things will pass. In the morning things will look better, I promise.
Remember to celebrate any tiny step forward. Try to be compassionate with yourself when you mess up. Try to apply these tips every day to the best that you can do and gradually your thoughts can change to a powerful magical positive mindset.
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Love & Light!
